Comments on: All or Nothin’ http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/ Tue, 29 Dec 2009 03:56:56 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: amuirin http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5063 amuirin Tue, 11 Dec 2007 17:57:15 +0000 http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5063 QM- Yay, you laughed! It's kinda funny, so often when I'm going for light or humor, it'll prompt a serious discussion, and vice versa. I like that though, the unpredictability. Great song, the feel fine. You're right, some days its the best a person can hope for. I think that ties into health, too, and how easy it is to take for granted feeling fine. Mad- lol- maybe i'll try that with a post. Barbara- yep, and maybe some of these ideas will grow from this seed... I'm rooting for the goofier ones. t.i.v.- Yeah, I imagine when you hear people talk all day, and delve into their innermost hearts it would be damn weird to try and make light conversation right after. My mom's a teacher, and some days when she's been talking and interacting for 8 hours, she doesn't really wanna talk at all. Her husband has gotten used to her kind of going into the cave of silence for an hour or two after work, and emerging refreshed around dinner time. QM- Yay, you laughed! It’s kinda funny, so often when I’m going for light or humor, it’ll prompt a serious discussion, and vice versa. I like that though, the unpredictability.

Great song, the feel fine. You’re right, some days its the best a person can hope for. I think that ties into health, too, and how easy it is to take for granted feeling fine.

Mad- lol- maybe i’ll try that with a post.

Barbara- yep, and maybe some of these ideas will grow from this seed… I’m rooting for the goofier ones.

t.i.v.- Yeah, I imagine when you hear people talk all day, and delve into their innermost hearts it would be damn weird to try and make light conversation right after. My mom’s a teacher, and some days when she’s been talking and interacting for 8 hours, she doesn’t really wanna talk at all. Her husband has gotten used to her kind of going into the cave of silence for an hour or two after work, and emerging refreshed around dinner time.

]]> By: QuoinMonkey http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5050 QuoinMonkey Tue, 11 Dec 2007 04:27:19 +0000 http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5050 I really enjoyed this post. I was laughing out loud which broke the silence of Liz studying beside me while I catch up on my reading. Jack Nicholson did really suck at small talk in that movie, didn't he? And so do I. I wear it like a badge of honor. Don't get me wrong - I can do small talk. But why in the world would I want to? Your feelin' fine comment reminded me of Beatles '65, She's In Love With Me And I Feel Fine, which is quite a fine song. So I think feelin' fine is some days the best we can hope for. And maybe, simply the best. I really enjoyed this post. I was laughing out loud which broke the silence of Liz studying beside me while I catch up on my reading. Jack Nicholson did really suck at small talk in that movie, didn’t he? And so do I. I wear it like a badge of honor. Don’t get me wrong – I can do small talk. But why in the world would I want to?

Your feelin’ fine comment reminded me of Beatles ‘65, She’s In Love With Me And I Feel Fine, which is quite a fine song. So I think feelin’ fine is some days the best we can hope for. And maybe, simply the best.

]]> By: LazyBuddhist http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5028 LazyBuddhist Mon, 10 Dec 2007 03:25:21 +0000 http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5028 I can't quite remember what my original point was about small talk in Lilli's post, but I think my observation was that it seems I've read an awful lot of bloggers talk about their lack of social skills. Personally, I think it is simiply our habit of thinking out loud on the page, and that tendency to use our inside voice when what is expected the rest of the world is using their heavily edited outside voice. Here in blogger world we are rewarded for speaking our truth, even though in normal social interactions that may be TMI. Did that make a lick of sense. I'm damned tired. I can’t quite remember what my original point was about small talk in Lilli’s post, but I think my observation was that it seems I’ve read an awful lot of bloggers talk about their lack of social skills. Personally, I think it is simiply our habit of thinking out loud on the page, and that tendency to use our inside voice when what is expected the rest of the world is using their heavily edited outside voice. Here in blogger world we are rewarded for speaking our truth, even though in normal social interactions that may be TMI.

Did that make a lick of sense. I’m damned tired.

]]> By: the individual voice http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5022 the individual voice Sun, 09 Dec 2007 23:03:09 +0000 http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5022 Excellent list. Love the baby eating dog food. Suck at small talk. Being a therapist all day I always end up with people outside of work wanting to dump their problems on me and I don't want to hear it but I can't steer the conversation to trivialities which is just as bad a choice for me in conversation so I just end up resentful and avoiding social events. Mental healthy I am not. Excellent list. Love the baby eating dog food. Suck at small talk. Being a therapist all day I always end up with people outside of work wanting to dump their problems on me and I don’t want to hear it but I can’t steer the conversation to trivialities which is just as bad a choice for me in conversation so I just end up resentful and avoiding social events. Mental healthy I am not.

]]> By: mad http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5011 mad Sun, 09 Dec 2007 16:52:17 +0000 http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5011 Small talk is easy. Just take big talk and remove the big words. Small talk is easy. Just take big talk and remove the big words.

]]> By: barbara http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5009 barbara Sun, 09 Dec 2007 13:27:56 +0000 http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5009 Thanks for your ping, and I love all the starts that didn't get endings. Wait a sec, they got their ending here! Thanks for your ping, and I love all the starts that didn’t get endings. Wait a sec, they got their ending here!

]]> By: amuirin http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5005 amuirin Sun, 09 Dec 2007 07:49:46 +0000 http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5005 Hi gingatao Tail chasing, eh? I think it's a different hour where you are. It's nearly midnight here, and I'm baking a birthday cake for my daughter, whose ten tomorrow. That kinda melts my brain. A decade! anyway, i lost a word or something in your comment, i think it's tying in writer's block to small-talk block, - kind of an interesting idea. it's a many idea day. Hi gingatao

Tail chasing, eh? I think it’s a different hour where you are. It’s nearly midnight here, and I’m baking a birthday cake for my daughter, whose ten tomorrow.

That kinda melts my brain. A decade! anyway, i lost a word or something in your comment, i think it’s tying in writer’s block to small-talk block, – kind of an interesting idea.

it’s a many idea day.

]]> By: gingatao! http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5003 gingatao! Sun, 09 Dec 2007 06:55:27 +0000 http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5003 Speakingofwhich, bloggers being social incompetents, I raise my hand, very technically competent skirting of the writers block idea touching on some themes, like a tail chasing just for fun. Thankyou so much for the link, I am flattered, I will investigate my companions, Speakingofwhich, bloggers being social incompetents, I raise my hand, very technically competent skirting of the writers block idea touching on some themes, like a tail chasing just for fun. Thankyou so much for the link, I am flattered, I will investigate my companions,

]]> By: amuirin http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5002 amuirin Sun, 09 Dec 2007 05:38:21 +0000 http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5002 Right. I could tape a keyboard to my head. And spend the evening as a conversation piece rather than a conversation participant. Right. I could tape a keyboard to my head. And spend the evening as a conversation piece rather than a conversation participant.

]]> By: Molo http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5001 Molo Sun, 09 Dec 2007 05:26:48 +0000 http://bugbear.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/all-or-nothin/#comment-5001 Conversation for the pure enjoyment of it...yeah. This might qualify. See, you're not so bad at this. Maybe at parties you should bring a keyboard. It's like a nicotine patch for talking. Conversation for the pure enjoyment of it…yeah. This might qualify. See, you’re not so bad at this. Maybe at parties you should bring a keyboard. It’s like a nicotine patch for talking.

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